The Bachelor and soul purpose.

Finding your soul purpose is a bit like finding your soul mate. We all want one. It can be tricky finding one.

I love watching The Bachelor. (Don’t be judging my reality TV guilty pleasure, ya all). If you don’t know the show, 25 women date 1 guy in hopes of finding true love and getting married. Mostly it is drama and watching women put their hearts out there, unsure if they will be the one chosen in the end. The show doesn’t have a great track record for lasting marriages but I still cheer for true love. Its the romantic in me.

the-bachelorOne thing that always strikes me are these successful, beautiful women who are desperately searching for their One. When women are asked to leave, the camera rolls and they have a mini confessional where they cry and normally say something like, I just want to find someone who will love me. It reminds me that we all have the desire to be loved.


Finding the One is similar to finding your soul purpose.

About 10 years ago, I was miserable because I thought I was supposed to have a purpose and I didn’t know what it was. Something was wrong with me. I didn’t know my calling and I was missing out, wasting time.

I remember having a conversation with mother-in-law and then sister-in-law. I was frustrated. I was a new mom and wanted something more. I said, If I just knew what to do, I would do it. But I didn’t know.

Between that conversation and finding “my soul purpose” was 5 years of trial and error. I would start. And stop. Start and stop projects. I was getting hits about my soul work, but I would ignore them or think they weren’t realistic. I would talk myself out of moving forward. Soul purpose like a soul mate doesn’t make sense to your brain. It’s a spirit thing.

FullSizeRender 2It’s spirit that keeps you up at night tossing and turning.

It’s spirit that calls you to make change.

It’s spirit that dreams big before you have a chance to talk yourself out of it.

Soul purpose sometimes doesn’t make sense. It isn’t romantic and doesn’t necessarily work the way you think it should. Soul purpose is about growth. It is about you showing up bigger than you ever have before. It is about you stretching in sometimes uncomfortable ways.


When I started my path as an artist, it was really hard. It was hard to go to a gallery and asked them to hang my work. It was hard to make a website. It was hard to stay up till five in the morning painting the edges of my paintings to finish them for a show. It was also fulfilling beyond explanation.

My work is my growing edge. I am out of my comfort zone when I lead webinars or do sales. It is a lot of work to put together an online or in person retreat. I work with collaborative partners and venues and budgets and agreements AND I see massive change in women who are willing to be courageous and step into their calling. That feels delicious and uncomfortable. I feel happy AND scared. Both.


The soul loves growth. Change. Moving you OUT of your comfort zone. 

Retro party invitation design with girl. Vector illustration.I believe spirit wants us to grow. What is spirit calling you toward? It may look like the book you’ve always wanted to write, your desire to start painting, lead a reiki workshop, start a women’s circle, or your need to bring more play into your business and life.
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Comment below and share. Do you believe in soul purpose? Do you have one/know what it is?


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