Do you believe it’s important to be realistic? Have you had your dreams squashed by a realist? No fun. I learned my lesson the hard way (and it’s not the way you’re thinking).
I thought I WAS being supportive. I told him so. I said, Babe, I’m just being realistic. He said, No, you’re not. Your being pessimistic.
And looking at him I realized, what I called realistic was pessimistic. It is socially accepted disbelief. I thought about all the times I had decided to be realistic and I asked myself, what good did it do to be realistic? Is being realistic an excuse to be a downer? Is being realistic a way to keep people from getting too excited, to keep them from getting their hopes up. Is it a way for me to feel better about myself, keeping someone at my level?
Being realistic is about keeping people small. Keeping them in a box.
- That my husband can’t charge what he does for business coaching, that he can’t build a business on word of mouth or make amazing money coaching only 8 people a year
- That artists don’t make good money, that I need ______ (fill in the blank certificate), and running a business takes a lot of time.
- My husband charges $25,000-150,000 per person per year for high end business coaching with no sales pages, funnels or online marketing.
- And I have worked with over 10,000 women online in under 2 years making great money doing what I love part time so I can have yummy time with my family.
So if you have a dream or vision and the voice in your head tells you to be realistic… Remember anyone who did anything great, was first considered unrealistic.
Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Oprah, J.K Rowling, Van Gough, Ford, the first plus sized models, the first women doctors…
If you consider yourself a realist, check yourself. Is it really helping?
As for me, I prefer to hang out with the dreamers and visionaries, those who believe in miracles and mystery.